Cold Feet

My fiance and I are doing well, but after talking to a few friends who have endured adultery at the hands of their spouse and friends, I'm back to the cold feet again. It seems that every time I try to move toward faith and unity, I am sidetracked by the horrible stories I hear. Pray for me, please.

Politically Incorrect - My Take on Black Culture

In an era where everything has to be politically correct, it's easy to put your foot in your mouth. Well, this may offend some people but it needs to be said.

First of all, if I were black and knew all the terrible history of what has happened in this country, I would strive to make the best out of all opportunities presented to me. I wouldn't sag my pants and show my underwear and my butt. I wouldn't seek to fit in with gangs and sell drugs to my own people, thus enslaving them again.

Black people are still slaves in many places but the only people holding them there is their own kind. We all stereotype in some way and when you play into that type, you aren't helping matters for other black people who sincerely want to be successful. Rappers aren't successful. They are only rich and popular. Successful comes from the impact you make in your community and around the world. I hope this message doesn't sound funny coming from a white woman, but someone needs to say something.

My parents fought for the equality of blacks and now my mom is embarrassed by that because the fruit is still not there. What happened to the strong black pride that existed when I was a child? I loved the culture of black people then. Now, it's embarrassing to be affiliated with the music and video images, the clothing and the language. And the funny thing is, there are MORE black geniuses than there are white ones, but they are all stuck in this bondage of being black as they can be instead of being all the human they can be.

I love all people and I don't care if I stepped on toes. Let's get it together.

YOU are the Calvary

Don't live the low life and expect someone to save you. Newsflash, honey- YOU are the calvary. Get up and dust yourself off when you fall and try again. If it just doesn't work, then try something else because as sure as you give up, someone else will never see the light of day. We are all leading someone else somewhere. You better know where you're going and how to get there. You better use your inner strength to find a way through the difficulties. That is called high powered living.

Don't Take A Shortcut

I now have a corner office on the eighth floor and every day I get there, I look out over the city and still can't believe I made it this far. Coming from someone who knows the struggle for women all too well, I can definitely tell you that God requires us to commit ourselves to excellence even when everyone else around us is taking short cuts. Don't take the short cut because you may miss something that will help you stay "there" when you get "there" and then it'll have all been for nothing.

Extra Baggage

Women can be so devalued in life by hardships and people, mainly family, that they no longer see themselves as jewels. It's sad that we allow ourselves to be used and debased by the same people we love and then later take it out on people who have done nothing wrong to us. Let's examine our lives and get rid of all the extra baggage.

Barrel of Laughs with The Old Silly

Marvin Wilson is a very funny guy and his blog, The Old Silly's Free Spirit Blog, is too hilarious. I'm not sure why he didn't do stand up, but if you need quick pick-me-uppers daily, take a trip over by his site and get in on the fun.

Breaktime

Don't neglect your friendships for work because the body and brain needs downtime to relax and reboot, just like your hard drive on your PC.

Get out and have some fun this weekend and at least once a month so that you can remember life needs both hard work and hard play.

Resting In Him

Today, I'm taking some time to rest in Christ. I'm going to read the bible, meditate and pray. Nothing more and nothing less. This day, I will rest in Him.